Category: Let's talk
After reading the topic created by q, I was left to ponder this question. When a charished loved one passes away, how can we all hold on the the memories? Do the memories fade over time,? do they stay vivid in our minds forever?
I honestly think that the hurt fades a little and things such as memories feel a little dimmer, but I don't think they go away. Since losing my adoptive mom six months ago, I look back on the letter I wrote after she died and it still makes me cry, the pain is still there. I guess we'll see in another year or so...
I think they fade, but younever forget. i still rememer some thing my grandpa told me when I was 10. I still miss him and my step dad to. I also lost a couple of very, very close friends, and I keep their memories to. sometimes its a song or a day. I don't think you ever forget. Just my thoughts.
I agree with the previous posters. My grandmother died two years ago and I can still remember all the good things she’s done for me even though the last time I saw her was six years ago. It’s hard to forget our memories whether good or bad because the person gave us something meaningful to remember. My grandmother told me a lot of advices and helped me get through a lot of things. I admire her strength, and I will never forget all the good times we had.
I think it depends on the person, and how you deal with it yourself, to some extent at least. But I think for me at least, I'd agree with sunshine's post.
It is interesting though how random things can make you think back. For some people you'll still hear their voice in your head sometimes too.
(sorry for this being a bit rambly, not all the way awake.)
I hear my Aunt Maxine's voice in my mind a lot, she tells me its gonna be all right. I just lost my grandma march 24th or 23rd hard tellin, cause she died in her sleep. It still hurts, i will never forget the three times i saw her in my life or the countless conversations on the phone, she meant a lot to me. grandpa died in 2003 and i still remember him too, it can be a statement something i read a song or just in deep thought that memories of people who have passed come back then i sit and cry.
the most important thing that we do in life is leave positive memories for those we love. as we go through the trials and turmoil of the daily drudge it is important to keep this in mind. When my mom died 24 years ago,
the last coherent thing she said to me was "too bad your brother is the only kid i have that will amount to anything." Granted she was in terrible pain. Ovarian cancer is a tortuous road to travel toward the heavenly hilton. I have made peace with her remark. She was a strong woman who has made me who I am.
After 9/11 I vowed this. When I'm walking out the door or climbing the stairs to bed, the last words anyone will hear from me are positive and will include "i love you."
Agreed with this last post. I also do the same thing.
We never know when it'll be our time to leave this world.
It could be 50 years or it could be a day.
We never realize how precious life is until its taken from us. Cherish it!